We are not empaths, we are energetic beings
Updated: Mar 20
The word Empath has spread like wild fire over the past few years, as more and more people wake up to this side of themselves. However, are we really empaths or is it just another facet of being a human?
In this week's blog I explore what it means to be an empath and contrast this with our innate energetic nature. As science sheds more light on the subtle energy within us and around us, we start to learn that we are not simply flesh and bone. Our consciousness can exist outside of our physical body and consciousness is energy.
Maybe what we call empath is simply us waking up to our energetic self and the energy field 'around' us. I truly believe that all humans are created equal, the problem is that most of us don't know what we are truly capable of.
On a subatomic level, we are made of energy, not physical matter, which changes everything. An empath is a person who is hyper sensitive; can pick up on people's feelings and emotions and become them; and has trouble setting (or defining) boundaries with those around them.
Judith Orloff, offers the following guidelines for being an empath:
Have I been labeled as “too emotional” or overly sensitive?
If a friend is distraught, do I start feeling it too?
Are my feelings easily hurt?
Am I emotionally drained by crowds, require time alone to revive?
Do my nerves get frayed by noise, smells, or excessive talk?
Do I prefer taking my own car places so that I can leave when I please?
Do I overeat to cope with emotional stress?
Am I afraid of becoming engulfed by intimate relationships
However my own personal belief is that we are all made this way, the difference is that 'empaths' are not good at setting personal or energetic boundaries with people. Which is a skill that many of us need to learn. I learnt this too and now that I am out the other side looking in I can see that good energy mastery is all that is needed.
Certainly when we don't manage our energy properly our life doesn't work as well as it should do. When looking at the habits of successful people it is no surprise to learn that setting boundaries, strong self awareness and taking responsibility of their life is something they all have in common. From my research on energy over the past few years I can confirm that all of these things are low vibrational energies, and when we sit for too long in low vibrational frequencies it is 10x times harder to create a better and more successful life.
In my upcoming book I discuss our electromagnetic field a lot because I can see that this is indeed a key aspect to creating a great life, a strong self identity and manifesting our dreams - which revolves around attraction or resonance. The mind and the heart both emit electromagnetic fields, but then so does every atom in your body - which is why it's not just the mind and heart that is doing this. It's you. This aura or field holds your data and is the key to changing your life - we are entangling with others fields all the time so we are entangling with their data, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, memories, conditioning, pre-programming etc. all the time too. We all possess this personal field or 'cloud storage' as I call it but we have to bring our awareness or attention to it. We have to become aware of it so we can understand where we end and others begin. Setting personal or energetic boundaries is the key here.
In 1996 it was discovered that we have mirror neurons in our brains that are most likely for imitating our parents and our ancestral tribe around us so that we can learn survival techniques faster. However there are two types of mirror neurons. Ones that copy behaviour and ones that copy emotions, and of course to copy emotions you have to feel them. This means that we do indeed feel others pain and emotions, which is referred to as Emotional Contagion. Sociopaths have smaller amygdala's and therefore less mirror neurons, hence they are less caring or feeling than the rest of us. We are a connected species and need to feel each other, because our species depends on it. Look at the way birds fly together in unity, or herds of elephants roam together, keeping each other safe. Imagine a baby elephant being separated from her mother and being in danger. If her mother couldn't feel her pain then not only may she not know her baby is in danger but she also wouldn't care if the baby was eaten by a roaming lion. We have to care - caring is survival.
Empaths are often referred to as introverts, but I don't see how this correlates to being an empath. Extroverts and introverts have a different flow of energy and are stimulated by their energy flow. From a physical stance introverts essentially have less dopamine receptors which means they don't need as much dopamine to feel happy. Introverts can feel happier by themselves, where extroverts need the dopamine hit to feel happier. Being half introvert and half extrovert myself, I would say that there is a lot more to this than simply dopamine. Introverts see the world differently and are a much needed aspect of humanity, and therefore survival. Introverts tend to be deep thinkers - maybe creatives and artists too - and are therefore more connected to their internal world. If the world was full of extrovert people we probably wouldn't have evolved half as quick as we have done. Scientists spend their time researching and thinking, philosophers such as Aristotle or Plato have been around since ancient times (it has been said that Aristotle used to channel his wisdom from the skies), Einstein spent his time staring out of the window when he 'downloaded' his general relativity theory.
In my opinion we need to be both introvert and extrovert because we need to go inside ourselves to understand, and then go outside of ourselves to share wisdom and growth so the world can grow and evolve too. We are a connected species and therefore we will always been connected to each other and the energy field around us.
In short, I don't feel that it is being an empath that is who we all are, it is creating awareness of the energetic aspects of ourselves. Once we stop seeing ourselves as simply flesh and bone, and accept ourselves as the energetic beings we are, we can stop hiding behind personality titles, start working on our limited beliefs about ourselves - which are held inside our aura or 'cloud storage' - and get to know ourselves inside out so we can focus on setting stronger boundaries. Introspection is a much needed skill which we are losing in this 24/7 plugged in world that we have created for ourselves.
Yes, we are energetic beings and all connected, but our physical form, aka The Ego, means that we are also ourselves and individuals. Our learning in this lifetime is maybe to get to know ourselves better and become our authentic self.